Teach mindfulness with confidence and credibility Learn More →

    Awareness And Intimacy

    JK
    Jack KornfieldPublished February 18, 2018 · Updated October 21, 2026 · 2 min read

    How do we bring awareness to our lives so as to fully embrace intimacy, both within ourselves and with others? Jack Kornfield gives this mindfulness talk on awareness and intimacy.

    Living Mindfully

    When we talk about living mindfully, what do we really mean? For many of us who practice mindfulness exercises and engage in mindfulness meditation, the hope is to ease anxiety and stress and bring a greater sense of peace and tranquility to our lives.

    However, increased mindfulness by its very nature brings with it increased awareness, both of ourselves and of those around us. As we sometimes discover when we become more aware of what’s going on inside of us, this heightened clarity isn’t always comfortable. In fact, we sometimes find ourselves responding with anxiety to our new level of awareness.

    Intimacy and Awareness in Meditation

    Jack Kornfield is an American author and Buddhist teacher. As a Theravada Buddhist practitioner, Jack trained in India, Burma, and Thailand under a number of renowned Buddhist masters. He has been teaching meditation around the world since 1974 and co-founded the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, Massachusetts.

    As we develop greater mindfulness through the practice of meditation, we may find ourselves grappling with aspects of ourselves with which we are uncomfortable. As our awareness of ourselves grows, we may find ourselves having trouble with intimacy.

    Being present involves an intimate experience, and being intimate with others, truly intimate with them, requires us to be fully present. When we’re wholly present with another person, the sheer force of the intimate experience can be jarring. The attachments that lead to suffering can be brought into sharp focus. We may fear the loss of intimacy with the other person. We may fear the potential that they might reject us. Sometimes, we may even fear the intimate experience itself.

    In this mindfulness talk, Jack Kornfield discusses how to navigate intimacy as we develop greater mindfulness and self-awareness.

    More from: Jack Kornfield

    jack kornfield, mindfulness teacher

    Share

    Continue reading

    • Connecting with the Earth

      Taking Refuge in Awareness with Phillip Moffitt

      Read
    • How to Mindfully Notice Our Body and Emotions

      How to Mindfully Notice Our Body and Emotions

      Read
    • How to Accept Life As It Unfolds

      How to Accept Life As It Unfolds

      Read