Clarifying Emotions

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    Sean FargoPublished November 9, 2015 · Updated March 28, 2024 · 2 min read

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    Meeting feelings with mindful presence

    Emotions are messengers, not problems to solve. “Clarifying Emotions” is an opportunity to develop a kinder relationship with the full range of your inner life — the easy feelings and the difficult ones.

    How mindfulness can help

    Mindfulness teaches us to stay near our feelings without becoming overwhelmed by them. By turning toward what we feel — naming it, locating it in the body, breathing alongside it — emotion becomes information rather than instruction. We learn to hold our experience, rather than be held hostage by it.

    Gentle steps to try

    1. Name what is here. Quietly say to yourself, “This is sadness,” or “This is anger.” Naming brings the prefrontal cortex online and softens reactivity.
    2. Locate it in the body. Where do you feel this emotion most clearly? The throat, the chest, the belly? Rest your attention there with kindness.
    3. Breathe alongside it. Imagine your breath flowing into and around the sensation, neither pushing it away nor pulling it closer.
    4. Ask what it needs. Many feelings simply want to be witnessed. Some carry a request — for rest, for boundary, for repair. Listen.

    Feelings are not flaws. They are weather moving through the open sky of your awareness. Trust that no emotion, however intense, is the whole of who you are.

    Getting to Know Our Emotions

    It can be difficult to know exactly what we’re feeling in any given moment; however, with the help of mindfulness and meditation practices, we can start to clarify whatever it is we are experiencing. Mindfulness and emotions are well-paired because through mindfulness practice, we tend to find we are able to more effectively navigate the often challenging waves that move through us.

    Mindfulness of emotions is explored in this worksheet. It invites us to label – without judgment or attachment – whatever feeling presents itself inside of us. By noting the present of, for example, love or shame, without attaching a sense of ‘I’ to that feeling, we are able to be with the experience without it overpowering us. Where trauma is present, it might be most beneficial to begin with loving kindness practices before diving deeper into this emotional work. Alternatively, you might find support from an experienced practitioner.

    How to Increase Mindfulness of Emotions

    To enhance our awareness of the emotions we experience, we can practice these 4 steps (as it feels safe for us to do so). These steps are outlined and explored in greater detailed in the Mindfulness of Emotions guide:

    1. 1Turn towards the emotion.
    2. 2Identify the emotion without judgment.
    3. 3Feel into the bodily sensations associated with the emotion.
    4. 4Become aware of its impermanence.

    When we explore mindfulness and emotions side by side in this way, we enhance our ability to navigate them effectively. It’s not about pushing them away; instead, it’s about letting them be present without fear or judgment.

    Clarifying our emotions is a big part of this because without doing so, we can find ourselves caught up in a cloud of racing thoughts that exacerbate what we are feeling. Instead, we can scan the body to find out what is present. If, for instance, anger is present, we can compassionately hold the sensation in our awareness while mindfully noting, ‘anger… anger… anger.’ As all things come and go, the feeling will naturally ebb.

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