The Power of Loving Kindness & How to Cultivate It

Our world is in need of a wave of loving kindness. As tension increases across the globe (due to everything from pandemic stress to geopolitical strife and in-between), we can serve our collective wellbeing by coming back to the heart. Loving kindness meditation is one way of cultivating the compassion that we need. It is a powerful practice that can help to quiet the analytical mind and attune our hearts to love for all.

In this comprehensive guide on the power of loving kindness, we will explore:

What Is A Loving Kindness Meditation?

Loving kindness meditation, also known by its original name ‘metta bhavana’ from the Pali language, is a practice of cultivating love, friendliness, or kindness. Broken down, ‘metta’ is translated as ‘love’ and ‘bhavana’ as ‘development’ or ‘cultivation’. Love, in this sense, is non-romantic, inclusive, and unconditional.

During a loving kindness meditation, we call to our awareness a sequence of different people, typically beginning with ourselves. While holding each person in mind, we repeat a sequence of loving kindness phrases. Once we have repeated these loving phrases to each person, we conclude the practice by sending these same well wishes to all humans or to the earth as a whole.

For example, a sequence of beings that you might move through while practicing loving kindness meditation is the following:

When offering loving kindness to someone you have difficulties with, it can be helpful to start with someone with whom the difficulties are minor (especially if you are new to the practice). This might be someone you care for but whom you feel frustrated by for one reason or another. Start small and allow your practice to grow.

Examples of Loving Kindness Phrases

Typically, you will repeat around four different loving kindness phrases when practicing this type of meditation. The phrases chosen vary across loving kindness guided meditation practices. If you are self-guiding this meditation, you can choose the phrases that most resonate with you. Some examples include:

When practicing on your own, choose three to five statements. As you call each person or the collective to mind, repeat these statements in sequence at least once.

The Benefits of Loving Kindness Meditation

These well wishes sound beautiful, but how much power do they really hold? Studies have shown that words do, in fact, hold immense power to shift our feelings and emotions^[2]. As our feelings shift, so do our interpretations and our actions.

Furthermore, loving kindness meditation (or metta bhavana) has been studied widely to better understand its individual and collective impact. Research has observed the following potential benefits of loving kindness meditation:

In its essence, loving kindness meditation helps us to ease our assumptions and judgments and tune into the humanity of ourselves and others. When it comes to mediating our relationships with other people, it facilitates our ability to set differences aside – even if just for a moment.

As we connect with our shared humanity and with feelings of love for the earth itself, who knows what we might accomplish. Since our thoughts become feelings and our feelings translate into actions, what might our actions be like if we cultivate in loving thoughts? Loving kindness is a radical practice that can help us to create a more peaceful and beautiful world.

How to Cultivate Loving Kindness: A Loving Kindness Script

The following loving kindness script invites you to cultivate feelings of compassion. Read this script prior to closing your eyes and practicing for yourself. You can also use this script as a guide for leading others.

May I be loved.
May I be safe.
May I be happy.
May I be at peace

May you be loved.
May you be safe.
May you be happy.
May you be at peace.

7 Mindfulness Exercises for Compassion

If you are looking for a loving kindness guided meditation or a loving kindness script to support your practice (or to teach this technique to others), consider the following resources.

The Power of Loving Kindness With Guy Armstrong

First, if you wish to learn more about what loving kindness entails, this talk by Guy Armstrong delves further into this traditional practice. In this talk, Armstrong notes hindrances to practice and how we might overcome them.

Self-Compassion Meditation With Kristin Neff

This loving kindness guided meditation is a twist on the classic practice of metta bhavana. The focus of this meditation is on cultivating love and tenderness towards ourselves.

Loving Kindness Meditation With Sean Fargo

This 15-minute loving kindness meditation is a soft and soothing metta practice to enhance compassion for oneself and for others. It is a more traditional version of this type of practice.

Loving Kindness For The Earth With Wes Nisker

Wes Nisker guides a loving kindness practice that expands outwards to hone in on this beautiful planet of ours. Can we offer compassion and kindness to all beings of this planet, and to the planet as a whole?

Loving Kindness Script

Another helpful resource is this guided script, which focuses on cultivating a sense of whole-bodied care. In fact, it is a hybrid version of a self-compassion meditation and a body scan practice.

Just Like Me Meditation With Sean Fargo

Another practice, which is different from the loving kindness meditation but cultivates compassion nonetheless, is the Just Like Me practice. This practice serves as a powerful reminder that despite our differences, we all share a common humanity.

Loving Kindness Script – The Child That Is You

Lastly, this loving kindness script is a practice to enhance our ability to be present with the child within. How would we love and comfort our inner child? And furthermore, how might they love and comfort us?