By Fred Kofman
Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin
“This is not working out for me,” is a hard thing to say. Yet it is the most constructive way to start the process of resolution.
You are not saying that this is wrong. You are not saying that your counterpart shouldn’t have done it, or shouldn’t do it. You are not blaming her. You are not intruding into her space. You are simply saying: “This is not working for me, I’d like to change it, and I’d like your help to do it.”
Speaking in the first person, taking ownership for your experience and opinions are the secret of presenting confronting information in a constructive manner.
In the following video, you can find more information on how to do it:
Find more exercises related to mindfulness at work here.