Mindfulness Of Death Helps You Live More Fully

Speaker 1 · 0:00Welcome to the Mindfulness Exercises Podcast. My name is Sean Fargo, and today we're going to be exploring mindfulness of death and living fully. So this is a rather intense practice and topic. So if it feels like it may feel overwhelming or triggering, then maybe pressing pause and finding a different episode might be helpful. But if it feels like it's something that you want to explore, then we'd be honored and happy to welcome you here. The Buddha called mindfulness of death as the most powerful mindfulness practice there is. And it's a mindfulness practice in the sense that we're treating this very inhale as potentially our last, this present moment inhalation as potentially our last. And I've been practicing this for quite some time, and I always find that it's clarifying for me to remember my deepest values, what's getting in the way of this full acceptance of this truth. It reminds me to love more fully this precious moment, myself, my family, and basically everybody. And it helps me to remember the preciousness of life and the sense of awe of this mysterious unfolding of sensory experience. That's really quite amazing. So this is the topic, this is the practice. I hope that you find this practice nourishing and helpful. If you find like it's getting too intense or overwhelming, please seek out help and take care of yourself. And no need to practice this if it feels too intense. Alright. Thank you for listening, and please let me know if you have any questions.

Speaker 2 · 2:22I'm thinking now that you said this mindfulness of death is very powerful. And I would like to share it with others. So what do you think is a good way to present it or to lead someone or a group to do this practice?

Speaker 1 · 2:42That's a big question. I think if you're wanting to do it with groups, it's important to make it clear that this is not for people who struggle with depression or who are struggling with depression, or who are suicidal. I also think that it's not great for people who are nihilists, who are on certain medications, or who are schizophrenic, or maybe bipolar. So I would be very clear that it's not for everyone. I would also make it clear that this is about opening to the preciousness of this moment, and that it can be intense. And I would follow all of our trauma sensitivity guidelines and learnings from the trauma sensitivity workshops that we offer, giving people choice, allowing people to stop, allowing people to leave, checking in with them, these types of things. In group settings, I've only seen it taught after other meditations were done first, at the end of a day of meditating, near the end of a retreat, that type of thing. I don't think you have to do it at the end, but I think it is helpful. Partly because it takes a while for the mind to be able to concentrate on each part of each breath consistently. So settling the mind. Sometimes it's

Speaker 1 · 4:33helpful to practice gratitude beforehand, to practice mindfulness of breathing for a while. When we consider that this very inhale could be our last, the fear of death may arise. The grasping of our future may arise. It's totally understandable. And sometimes grief comes up, sometimes fears come up, sometimes regrets come up, different things may come up. And so it's helpful to have some significant mindfulness practice to be able to bring mindfulness to whatever comes up, to bring gentle awareness to new emotions, to new physical sensations, and then notice those and allow them to come stay with them until they pass, and then come back to this breath as potentially being my last.

Speaker 1 · 5:33One trick sometimes is to start with maybe you have like one year's worth of breaths and then one month and then one day and then ten breaths. You know what happens when you do a countdown from ten to one. It's powerful because it shows you what gets in the way of accepting each breath as maybe being my last. And it wakes you up. It's like this breath, wow. Like this breath is giving me life that I'm living right now. This experience, this breath right now. And I don't know if I'm gonna have another breath, but this breath is fully alive, fully here, where there's like this sense of awe that this moment is unfolding and alive. And I love it. This is amazing. I get to feel this humanity, this human existence, these human senses, this human body, this human heart, this human head, this human mind. I may not know like what the universe is exactly, but I'm feeling this human experience right now.

Speaker 1 · 6:53After the practice, I mean, we can always practice this, but like after the formal meditation part, we can reflect. Given that this life is uncertain, given that I don't know when I'm gonna die, hopefully it's in a hundred years. But since it may not be another day, what do I want to focus on? Do I want to love? Do I want to do the thing I've been putting off? Do I want to call someone? Do I want to do some forgiveness work? Do I want to take care of myself? There's no right or wrong answer. What do I want to focus on? And that's why I say, like, when I'm at a crossroads in my life where I need to make kind of a big decision on something, or maybe I just need to wake up, I'll do this practice.

Speaker 1 · 7:45Most people do this practice giving themselves a week or a year to live. There's nothing wrong with that. But in my experience, it's also a lot less powerful. Because then it's just a hypothetical reflection. It's not actually a mindfulness practice. This is a mindfulness practice because we're sensing into this breath, this experience of breathing, this moment. That's why we call it mindfulness of death. That this breath could be my last, that death may be on the doorstep. We could get a brain hemorrhage, an asteroid might land on us. I don't want to get dark, but like there's all sorts of things that happen. We hear people dying very unexpectedly in very bizarre ways all the time. And I don't wish that on anyone. I want us all to live for a long time in a happy, healthy way. And we don't actually know. But because it's the most powerful mindfulness practice that a lot of people think it's the most powerful. And because no one really teaches it, I'll teach it sometimes. And there's a couple of teachers out there who specialize in this, but it's hard to find them. We need this more. And so if you want to do that work,

Speaker 1 · 9:10then I would be very supportive of that. As long as you're careful around it.

Speaker 2 · 9:16Yeah, I I would like to share it and people to know about this because we always say what you try to avoid, it takes power away from you. And we all try to avoid death. That's something I realized when I started to do this. And when you realize death is there that you are mortal, a lot of perspective changes. And I think we need it.

Speaker 1 · 9:41Yeah.

Speaker 2 · 9:42It's a challenge how to present it.

Speaker 1 · 9:44I highly recommend doing it a lot first before you teach it. Yeah, I think on my Spotify under Sean Fargo, I think there's a mindfulness of death. And I think on our podcast, if you search death, you'll probably find between one and three practices. And I think we might have written a blog post about it or something at some point. For whatever it's worth. Meanwhile, my puppy keeps staring at me with a big smile saying, Papa, Papa, pay attention to me. Well, I know this is kind of a maybe heavy a little bit, but I hope this was helpful. Thank you for co creating community and thank you for helping others. And have a great day. Thank you.