A note from Sean
When something feels unfair, there is an unpleasant feeling first, and then a reaction: judgment, a story, a compulsion to do something. The more we practice noticing the unpleasantness for what it is, the more space we feel around it. That space is freedom of choice.
Try this today. The next time you feel overlooked or treated unfairly, even slightly, pause. Feel your feet. Find the sensation in your body, maybe a tight jaw or a hot chest. Note what you say to yourself, word for word, as question 2 asks. Don’t change anything. Tonight, scan back through the day and write one line for each moment (item 4).
Keep going: Transforming Anger and Letting Go of Resentments by Forgiving Faults.
This suits anyone who notices themselves counting who owes what. If the unfairness is serious, or the memories are painful, go gently. Stop when you need to.
