By Fred Kofman
Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin
If you keep doing what you’ve done,
you’ll keep getting what you’ve gotten.
Shane would like to change some things in the way he works with a colleague. These things are “so small” that he hasn’t found the energy to bring them up. Yet, they bother him.
What bothers him is not just what he sees as less-than-excellent quality of work, but the fact that appeasing his colleague is neither helping the relationship nor fulfilling Shane’s vision of who he wants to be.
So I ask him to pretend I’m his colleague and tell it to me like it is, without any filters or anesthesia.
Shane’s unfiltered thoughts are toxic. They won’t improve the work, will harm the relationship and betray his cherished values of respect and compassion.
What can he do? If he speaks his mind, he’ll pollute the space. If he keeps quiet he’ll pollute himself.
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