Feeling Attraction to Others

A mindful companion to this worksheet

Meeting feelings with mindful attention

Emotions are information, not problems to solve. “Feeling Attraction to Others” is a chance to build a kinder relationship with the whole range of your inner life, the easy feelings and the hard ones.

How mindfulness can help

Mindfulness helps us stay close to a feeling without being swept away by it. Turning toward what we feel, naming it, finding it in the body, and breathing alongside it, often makes the emotion easier to hold. Over time we learn to have our experience rather than be run by it.

Gentle steps to try

1. 1Name what is here. Quietly say to yourself, “This is sadness,” or “This is anger.” Many people find that naming a feeling takes a little of the charge out of it.
2. 2Find it in the body. Where do you feel this emotion most clearly? The throat, the chest, the belly? Let your attention rest there with kindness.
3. 3Breathe alongside it. Imagine the breath moving into and around the sensation, neither pushing it away nor pulling it closer.
4. 4Ask what it needs. Many feelings simply want to be noticed. Some carry a request, for rest, a boundary, or a repair. Listen for it.