Today’s practice
Compassion
8 min, guided by Sean Fargo
Today we practice compassion: the willingness to be present with suffering, yours or someone else's, with care rather than overwhelm. Compassion is not weakness. It takes courage.
In your day
When you notice someone struggling today, silently offering: may you be supported.
From Sean
A lot of people try to skip straight to forgiveness. Compassion comes first, and before compassion, usually, is inquiry: what is actually going on for this person, or for me? If we cut to forgiveness without that, something gets left behind. Compassion is the willingness to stay close to the hard part, with care.
A question to carry
What is the difference, in you, between compassion and fixing?
Saved on this device only, and kept for all 28 days.
A few lines, for whatever they are worth
I did not fix anything.
I stayed.
That was the brave part:
to stay close
to what I could not make better.
If you want more today
- Script: Directional Compassion (PDF), to read aloud for yourself or someone else.
- Workshop: Beth Cavenaugh on her mindfulness journey as a hospice nurse, about an hour, for when you have it.
- Podcast: The Dharma of Healing with Justin Michelson, for the drive or the walk.
Read the practice as text
Transcription
Let’s begin by taking a moment to allow your body to settle into a comfortable position (2 seconds). You may close your eyes or keep them slightly open allowing the spine to lift, the shoulders to soften (5 seconds).
Today we will practice compassion (2 seconds).Begin by taking a full breath in (2 seconds) and a long breath out. (2 seconds)Then allowing the breath to find its natural rhythm. (5 seconds)
Let’s start by inviting compassion for ourselves.As human beings, we all have moments of difficulty, challenge (2 seconds) of suffering.
Take a moment to acknowledge the difficulties you’ve experiencedor are experiencing now in your life. (10 seconds)It may help to think of a specific difficulty or you can keep it general. (10 seconds)Now imagine someone you know who cares about you. (2 seconds)
It can be someone present in your life now or from the past,it can be a dear friend, family member, or a teacher (2 seconds)or it can even just be the general idea and feeling of a caring person. (10 seconds)Now imagine this being responding to your difficulties with warmth and understanding. (2 seconds)
Allow yourself to receive their warmth and understanding,their wishes for your well-being and happiness. (2 seconds)Allow their care and concern to fill your whole body and mind. (5 seconds)As you breath in, breath in compassion for yourself. (5 seconds)
You may also want to say some words to yourself such as,“May I be well, may I be healthy, (2 seconds)may I find the resources that I need to pass this difficulty.” (5 seconds)
As you breath in you can think of yourself as breathing in this compassion for yourself, taking it in and really letting it sink into your body and mind. (10 seconds)
Now bring to mind someone you know who is having a difficult time.It could be someone at work or in your personal life, someone you care about. (5 seconds)
Bringing this person to mind (2 seconds),along with the awareness that their struggling right now (5 seconds),now let yourself feel what you would wish for them. (5 seconds)
You may wish them health, happiness, contentment (2 seconds),or it may not be specific words but more of a general feeling,general wish for their well-being. (10 seconds)Imagine them receiving this compassion. (10 seconds)
Now if you’re able you may want to expand your wish of compassion more widely to anyone experiencing difficulty or pain. (2 seconds)
You may say to yourself, “May their suffering be relieved (2 seconds),
may they be well.” (5 seconds)And as you breath out, breathing out compassion for others. (15 seconds)
And even if you’re not able to connect directly with feelings of compassionjust bringing kind awareness to whatever it is you may be experiencing right now. (5 seconds) Breathing in compassion for myself (2 seconds),breathing out compassion for others. (20 seconds)
Now letting the words go, returning to an awareness of the body (2 seconds),settling on the breath (10 seconds),notice how you feel right now. Any sensations in the body?
Particularly around the face (2 seconds), the head (2 seconds),the heart (2 seconds), the chest (2 seconds), and the belly. (2 seconds)
As you continue noticing what happens in your body,you may now slowly open your eyes (5 seconds),stretching as needed (2 seconds),returning your awareness to where you are (5 seconds)
*ding* (20 seconds).
Integrated Practice:
Write for 2 full minutes for each journaling prompt below. Once you’ve finished, take a minute to reread what you wrote and reflect.
Journaling Prompts:
1. What I’ve noticed during this practice period is…2. The kind of mindset or attitude I hope to cultivate is…
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