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April 2, 2016

Dealing with anger, resistance and pessimism. Eckhart Tolle says the key is to catch what he calls the painbody at an early stage.

This video discusses the decisive shift from identifying with a feeling and simply observing it in your energy field

Anger is perhaps the oldest and most primitive emotion. Anger is easy to recognize in others, but not always in ourselves. Anger ultimately serves a purpose: that of self-preservation. When we sense a threat to our well-being, we become angry in an effort to “get even” with the situation. This is not to say that anger is bad or wrong.

Dealing with anger is often a useful and important emotion, however, left unchecked it can get the best of us and takes us out of the present moment. Anger can ruin relationships, resulting in unnecessary suffering. At its core, anger is about conflict: conflict with others, ourselves, or situations.

To quote Zen Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh from his book Taming the Tiger Within

“When you say something unkind, when you do something in retaliation, your anger increases. You make the other person suffer, and they try hard to say or do something back to make you suffer, and get relief from their suffering. That is how conflict escalates.”

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Sean Fargo is the Founder of Mindfulness Exercises, a former Buddhist monk of 2 years, a trainer for the mindfulness program born at Google, an Integral Coach from New Ventures West, and an international mindfulness teacher trainer. He can be reached at [email protected]