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    Tonglen

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    Sean FargoPublished March 3, 2016 · Updated March 28, 2024 · 1 min read

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    Tonglen

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    A mindful approach to tonglen

    “Tonglen” is an invitation to slow down and meet your experience with curiosity, honesty, and kindness — three qualities that quietly transform everything they touch.

    How mindfulness can help

    Mindfulness offers a steady inner ground from which to engage any topic. Instead of being swept along by reaction, we learn to notice what is here — sensations, thoughts, feelings — and respond from a place of presence rather than pressure.

    Gentle steps to try

    1. Begin with the breath. Take three slow breaths before opening the worksheet. Let your body remember it is here.
    2. Read with curiosity. Move through each prompt slowly. Notice which questions soften you, and which ones tighten you.
    3. Write what is true now. There are no right answers — only honest ones. The truth at this moment is what the worksheet is asking for.
    4. Close with one breath. When you finish, pause. Place a hand on your heart and acknowledge yourself for showing up.

    Insight does not arrive on a schedule. Trust the practice of returning, the courage of honesty, and the slow unfolding of your own becoming.

    Meditation Tonglen: Gateways Into Compassion

    The suffering that we experience in life is a gateway into compassion. As we find the courage to meet whatever challenge or discomfort is present within us, the experience begins to transform into something different – into compassion. Contrary to our human tendency to pull away from what is painful, this practice invites us to move more deeply into the experience. Where the felt experience is challenging, we can ease and facilitate our movement into a place of compassion by resting the hand on the heart or by focusing on the out breath, releasing whatever energies may be caught within us.

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