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October 3, 2025

Mindfulness is not just about meditation — it’s about how we meet life’s joys and challenges with awareness, compassion, and presence.

Each week, I share five reflections, practices, and inspirations that are helping me live more mindfully.

Self-Compassion Myths, Self-Compassion Myths, Dr. Dan Siegel & Healing Grief

Here’s what’s been on my heart and mind this week:

What I’m Sensing Into: The 5 Myths of Self-Compassion

As I’ve been navigating a broken ankle, recurring headaches, and the ongoing challenge of, well, being human, I’ve noticed how quickly barriers to self-care can arise. Self-compassion is often misunderstood, but mindfulness helps me see through the myths:

  • “Self-compassion is just self-pity.” Meeting pain with tenderness helps me feel steadier, not weaker.
  • “It makes me weak.” Offering care to myself is actually a practice of courage.
  • “It’s selfish.” The more I treat myself with love, the more I have to give to others.
  • “It lets me off the hook.” Self-compassion clears away judgment, leaving space for real responsibility.
  • “It’s too soft.” It feels more like a quiet strength that helps me stay open without shutting down.

Which of these myths resonates most with you?

What I’m Excited About: A Conversation with Dr. Dan Siegel

Self-Compassion Myths, Self-Compassion Myths, Dr. Dan Siegel & Healing Grief

I’m thrilled to be sitting down with Dr. Dan Siegel for our upcoming podcast episode. Dr. Siegel is a world-renowned psychiatrist, author, and teacher whose work on interpersonal neurobiology has transformed how we understand mindfulness, relationships, and the brain.

He’s also the creator of the Wheel of Awareness, a powerful practice for cultivating presence.

If you could ask Dr. Siegel one question about the mind, resilience, or mindful living, what would it be? I’d love to bring your curiosity into the conversation.

What I’m Practicing: Sitting in Silence

Sometimes mindfulness is about simplicity. This week, my practice has been:

  • Sitting quietly.
  • Resting my tired body.
  • Feeling the current of life flow through me.

Nothing more, nothing less.

What I Recommend: Grief and Loss Course with Dr. Rick Hanson

Self-Compassion Myths, Self-Compassion Myths, Dr. Dan Siegel & Healing Grief

Most of us carry grief — often silently. The passing of loved ones, the end of relationships, health changes, or even grief for the state of the world can weigh on our hearts.

That’s why I recommend Dr. Rick Hanson’s Grief and Loss course, beginning Saturday. This course offers tools to process grief, grow inner strengths, and feel light again.

If you’ve been carrying losses of your own and want to learn how to make space for your grief without being overwhelmed, this is a wonderful opportunity.

A Poem I Love: Breaking Surface by Mark Nepo

Mark Nepo’s poetry has a way of reaching deep into the soul. Here’s one that’s been guiding me:

"Let no one keep you from your journey, no rabbi or priest, no mother who wants you to dig for treasures she misplaced, no father who won't let one life be enough, no lover who measures their worth by what you might give up...

It’s a beautiful reminder that we are each explorers — with our own compass and shore to discover.

Closing Reflection

Mindfulness isn’t about perfection. It’s about learning to listen to our bodies, hearts, and minds with presence and care. This week’s musings remind me that self-compassion, silence, grief, and poetry all hold wisdom for our healing.

May you find something here that nourishes your own journey.

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About the author 

Sean Fargo is a mindfulness teacher and the founder of Mindfulness Exercises, a platform dedicated to making mindfulness accessible to everyone. Sean's journey into mindfulness began after a career in international business, during which he was a Director of Product Development and Procurement in Beijing. Despite his business growth, Sean felt called to explore deeper aspects of life, leading him to ordain as a Buddhist monk in the Thai Theravada tradition. He spent two years immersed in monastic life, learning the art of mindfulness and meditation from some of the most respected teachers in the field.

Upon returning to the Western world, Sean sought to bridge the gap between traditional mindfulness practices and modern life. He worked closely with renowned meditation teacher Jack Kornfield at Spirit Rock Meditation Center and became a trainer for the mindfulness program born at Google. Sean’s work extends to advising technology startups like Elevate Labs and WellBrain (supporting people with chronic pain, trauma and addiction), as well as teaching mindfulness to top executives at companies such as PG&E, Reddit, and DocuSign.

In 2015, Sean founded Mindfulness Exercises to share the transformative power of mindfulness with a broader audience. His platform offers a wealth of free and premium resources, including guided meditations, worksheets, and a comprehensive mindfulness teacher certification. With a mission to help others develop mindfulness with integrity and compassion, Sean has impacted over 20 million people worldwide. Through his teachings, Sean continues to inspire others to live more present, loving, and resilient lives, especially in challenging times.

Sean’s deep commitment to mindfulness is not just professional but personal, as he tries to embody the principles of mindfulness in every aspect of his life and work.

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