A note from Sean
I define equanimity simply as carrying perspective. It’s staying connected with the heart, inside a container of perspective. That includes remembering that everything is changing, that sorrow and joy both come, and that we shouldn’t take things too personally. It’s easier said than done.
Try this today. Bring to mind one person you care about who is having a hard time. Feel your feet on the floor. Silently say, “I care about you, and your happiness depends on your actions, not my wishes for you.” Notice what your chest and belly do as you say it, then take three slow breaths.
Keep going: Feeling Knocked Off Balance and Equanimity Meditation.
This suits anyone who gets pulled off center by other people’s moods or problems. If you are grieving, or someone you love is in crisis right now, go gently. Stop when you need to.
Here’s a Sample of the “Cultivating a Stable Mind” Guided Meditation Script:
Grounded and FlexibleEquanimity is the quality of remaining grounded and stable in the midst of your experience. When you notice suffering, you respond with compassion, and you don’t get knocked off balance by the unexpected. With equanimity practice, you cultivate a state of mind that is both grounded and flexible, especially in the midst of intense emotional experiences. Closing the eyes and finding your posture, bring your awareness into your present experience. Notice the sounds, the feelings in the body, and your overall mental state. Open your awareness. When something comes up, tune in to the mind, noticing where you get knocked off balance.
Certain sounds, thoughts, or feelings in the body may feel charged, pulling you from your calm state of mind. Sit with this awareness of your own balance for five minutes. Bring to mind someone you care about deeply. Connect with your intention to care for this person. Recognize that although you may care for this person, you cannot control their happiness. Offer a few phrases of equanimity:May you be happy. May you be in charge of your happiness. Your happiness is dependent upon your actions, not my wishes for you.
