Here’s a Sample of the “Mindful Speech” Guided Meditation Script:
In Buddhist teaching, mindful speech (called right speech) is one of the ways to free ourselves from suffering. Yes, this means not criticizing unnecessarily, gossiping, or being unkind. But taking a step back, it can also be viewed as how we communicate with other beings.
Many meditation retreats practice silence. You may not realize how much focus you put on making small talk – on filling up silence, on trying to look good in front of other people – until you can’t. When we are silent, we’re able to tune in more easily to the harshest conversations – the ones we have with ourselves.
But real life involves speaking and communicating. And in order to have healthy relationships with other people, mindful communication is essential. Mindful speech is about being conscious of not only what words we use, but how we deliver them. Mindful speech also involves mindful listening.
It’s about:
- Noticing if we’re just waiting for the other person to finish speaking so we can have our say, and changing our focus to actually listening to them
- Holding space for someone when they are expressing difficulty, rather than perhaps trying to “fix” them or their situation with our words
- Being conscious of the intention behind what we’re saying, and being more honest about it
For example, someone might ask their partner, “When was the last time you went to the gym?” What they might actually mean is: “I’m worried that you’re not getting enough exercise, and that it’s affecting your health and your levels of happiness.”
