A note from Sean
The mind settles when it feels safe enough. If it is busy looking out for threats, it is hard to focus on anything else. So I start by inviting safety, warmth, or connection, and a moment of goodness: something I am grateful for, or someone I love. That helps the body soften.
Try this today. Three times today, stop and ask, “Right now, in this moment, am I okay?” Look around, feel your feet and your breath. If the answer is yes, let it land for three breaths. If you notice your mind scanning for danger, say “scanning” and let it be there without letting it run the show.
Keep going: Love Yourself (Self Confidence Exercise) and Feeling Strong and Confident.
This suits anyone whose guard stayed up long after a hard time ended. If the memory of that time is close, or asking “am I okay?” stirs up fear, go gently. Stop when you need to.
Here’s a Sample of the “Restoring Confidence When Negatively Impacted” Guided Meditation Script:
In this exercise,I’m going to share how mindfulness can help restore feelings of confidenceThat may have been negatively impacted over timeMany survivors of very difficult circumstancesWill get to this stage in this mindfulness pathwith an even stronger sense of themselvesand a deeper appreciationfor their own resourcefulness. But trauma and deep internal challenges can leave its mark on confidence, attitudes, relationships, and behaviorlong after the core wound has healed. Mindfulness practices can help youto feel more confidence in yourselfRestoring youTo your own original authenticity. Over time, You may have developed the tendencyTo over-monitor everything in your experience, Looking out for signs of danger, harm, or anything unpleasant.
Of course, it’s healthy to look out for danger, But it can be unhealthy if we’re not balancing it outBy remembering the 99% of the timeWhen we’re actually okIn each present moment.So if you learn to acknowledge your monitoringwithout letting it take over, you will stop undermining your confidence in your current state of ‘ok-ness’.By opening up toAnd bringing mindfulness to all of the positive states of being throughout your day, Your sense of self-confidenceWill grow bit by bit, Drop by drop, Until your water bucket of self confidenceIs full and embodied.
