We might believe that a true love shouldn’t try to teach us to change in any way – but in fact, an acceptance of a legitimate role for education in love is key to the success of relationships.
“One of the most delightful and thrilling aspects of the early days of a love affair is the sense that our lover likes us not only for our obvious qualities – perhaps our looks, or our professional accomplishments – but also, and far more touchingly, for our less impressive sides: our vulnerabilities, our hesitations, our flaws. Perhaps they are particularly taken by the gap between our two front teeth which, while it wouldn’t impress an orthodontist, charms them distinctly. Or perhaps they are taken by our shyness at busy parties or are powerfully drawn to that old pair of pajamas with the bear prints which we put on on cold winter nights and which would win no fashion award…”
