Arguments are inevitable in a relationship, but hoping to never argue again is simply unrealistic. Learn how to argue with your partner reasonably.
It isn’t realistic to aim never to argue with your partner; far better to learn how to argue fruitfully and well. This has a lot to do with allowing ourselves to be vulnerable.
“Arguments in relationships are typically so regrettable and often so bitter, it’s natural to hope we might – with greater maturity – overcome them once and for all. But given what human nature is like, it would be unwise to make this our goal: the hope can’t be to eliminate arguments altogether, it should be to try to find our way to a better kind of argument.
Arguments tend to start when we are confronted – usually rather suddenly – by what appears to us to be the radical selfishness, intransigence or sheer nastiness of the partner…”