Archive Monthly Archives: March 2017

5 Things That Complements My Daily Meditation

5 Things That Complement My Daily Meditation

I will be the first to admit that keeping to a regular meditation practice is challenging. Sitting still for a few minutes a day is the last I want to do when I have to rush to feed the toddler and get

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Being Assertive Without Harming

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin ” Do I have to give up me to be loved by you?” Jordan and Margaret Paul Angeli wants to improve the work practices of her report,

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Improving Performance

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin If you keep doing what you’ve done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve gotten. Shane would like to change some things in the way

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A Combustion Engine

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin How often could you productively get together with your colleagues and ask, “How are we working together? Is there anything I could do to make

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When Things Are Not Working [Video]

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin “This is not working out for me,” is a hard thing to say. Yet it is the most constructive way to start the process of resolution. You

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Blame and Threat Into Appreciate and Suggest

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin There’s no such thing as ‘the hole is on your side of the boat’ The paradox in performance improving conversations is that in

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Structuring An Improvement Conversation

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin “The term “feedback” has (be)come an euphemism for criticizing others, as in ‘the boss gave me feedback on my presentation.’

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No Such Thing As Constructive Feedback [Video]

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin “When I hear, ‘I’ve got some feedback for you,’ my brain shuts down.” It is important to let others know when you

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Establishing and Maintaining Commitments [Video]

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin Tara is distressed. Her colleagues are not honoring their commitments, which makes it impossible for her to deliver on hers. Her anxiety is not

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Making an Effective Complaint [Video]

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin When someone makes a promise to you, she is not only promising to deliver what she committed; she is also promising to not let you down. If you

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Making an Effective Apology [Video]

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin Your promises are not just commitments to fulfill in the future; they are guarantees of integrity you must honor in the present. Satisfaction

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How to Commit With Integrity

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin “Economic life depends on moral bonds of social trust. This is the unspoken, unwritten bond between fellow citizens that facilitates transactions,

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How to Elicit Effective Commitments

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin “Do or do not… There is no try. –Yoda” Your well-formed request demands a clear response. There are only three clear

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Making an Effective Request

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin Decisions are worthless unless they turn into commitments. Talk is cheap. That’s why it’s easy to decide. Action is expensive. That’s

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Escalating Disagreements Cleanly [Video]

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin “My job is not to be right, my job is to raise the issue when I’m concerned to alert the people who make the final call.” Clean escalation

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Resolving Conflict Between Teammates [Video]

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin Damned if you hear it, damned if you don’t. Such is your predicament as a manager receiving an unclean escalation. If you “hear the case”,

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When Not To Listen to Your Employees

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin You shouldn’t listen to an employee who wants help to solve a conflict with another. You might feel proud of “mediating” among your team

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Resolve Conflicts as One Team [Video]

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin “So oft in (organizational) wars The disputants, I ween, Rail on in utter ignorance Of what each other mean, And prate about an Elephant Not

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Never Negotiate Without a Safety Net [Video]

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin “Each of us must be better off as one of us.” If you are negotiating with me in good faith, you must believe that you can do better with me

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Identify and Eliminate the Sources of Conflict [Video]

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin “Most parents hate to experience conflict, are deeply troubled when it occurs, and are quite confused about how to handle it constructively.

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How to Collaborate Through Conflict

By Fred Kofman Philosopher and Vice President at Linkedin “Nothing in the world
 is as soft and yielding as water. Yet for dissolving the hard and inflexible, nothing can surpass it. The soft overcomes

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